“The sorrow and shame that our faults cause us are their own remedy”

The Fourth Sorrowful Mystery is the Carrying of the Cross. Fruit of the Mystery is PATIENCE. Usually when we think about having patience it is having patience with others. That’s not what this is about. This about patience with yourself, as you struggle with your faults through this vale of tears. It’s about endurance. Like the old saying goes, If you’re going through hell, keep going. -nvp

Patience with Oneself

h/t Laura Wood

“A SOUL TO whom God makes known its defects is much more burdensome to itself than its neighbor ever could be to it, because the latter, however near to us, is not always with us; at any rate is not within us, whereas we carry ourselves about with us, and cannot leave ourselves for a single moment, nor completely cease to behold ourselves, to feel ourselves, and to carry about with us everywhere our imperfections, and our faults. But see wherein the infinite goodness of our God shines forth; for the sorrow and shame that our faults cause us are their own remedy, provided that this shame never turns into defiance, and that the sorrow is inspired by the love of God, and not by self−love. Sorrow born of self−love is full of vexation and bitterness; far from healing the wounds of our soul, it only serves to poison them. On the other hand, sorrow produced by the love of God is calm and full of resignation; while detecting the fault it delights in the humiliation which follows, and from this it results that much merit is gained, and thus even from losses we make, profit. Cease then from tormenting yourself on account of your defects and of the imperfection of your works. Offer to God the sorrow they occasion you, and allow His divine Providence to make good these slight infidelities by many little crosses and sufferings of all kinds. Arm yourself only with patience, raise yourself again as soon as possible and deplore your falls with a sweet, tranquil humility. God wishes you to act thus, and by this indefatigable patience you will render Him more glory and will make more progress than the most violent efforts would have enabled you to do.”

— The Rev. Jean Pierre de Caussade, S.J., Abandonment to Divine Providence